Pre-school/ Kindergarten

I went around my housing area with Tian looking at 2 kindergartens. I am planning to enrol Tian for three year old class so that she gets used to discipline.

The first kindy 3Q is recommended by two of my ex-colleagues whom they have sent their kids for their pre-school. I went there to understand the syllabus and took a look at the environment. The syllabus is quite advanced but what I like about the pre-school is that the classes are conducted in small groups (maximum of 10 children). Fees are more expensive than those around my neigbourhood. Tian is quite comfortable with the kindy and talked a lot to the person-in-charge/ principal.

I went to another kindy in another neighbourhood, Nuri to take a look just to make comparisons. The exterior looks very well managed with nice paintings but when I stepped inside, it was like walking into a market. The kindy was very crowded with 3 groups/classes of children in the living room area. I went into the office and i could still hear children's voices from upstairs. I was thinking whether it was in that kind of chaos everyday or due to the children had completed their syllabus and it was the last week before their semester break so they were allowed to play. The classes were decorated with very bright hand paintings by teachers as I was told ( I acknowledge the effort put in) but I think it is too much to have paintings covering all the walls.

The principal showed me their fees breakdown before showing me the syllabus (which I dislike) and Tian was not comfortable there and kept on holding me hand. I knew which kindy I have to choose the moment I stepped into the second kindy.

Weaning in Progress

Tao is 8 months and 3 weeks old. I started to wean Tao today by feeding her 1 oz of formula milk using cup and spoon just for her to have a taste of another type of milk. I felt like cheating her by feeding her 'artificial milk' although it is almost the right time to do so.

I planned to wean her gradually when she is 9 to 10 months old by supplementing with formula milk once a day and continue to express milk during day time and nurse at night. However, I decided to start now because my milk supply was decreasing since last week after clogged milk duct leading to infection with flu-like symptom. Initially, the problem started because of sore nipple so I fed Tao less on the affected side due to excruciating pain. I think I did not empty that side properly during feeding/ pumping and caused milk to back up. When I read from my book regarding this problem, it advised to let baby nurse from affected side first. The clogged duct cleared after that but left me with almost 50% of usual supply so I had been using my stock from the freezer.

So I let Tao start to taste formula earlier so that she will not reject formula milk when needed. I supplemented her with formula during confinement when milk supply was not established but as supply increased, I began reducing formula until she completely rejected formula in second month and she had been feeding on breast milk ever since.

I express milk using pump during day time when I am working, going out or even at home. Tao gets use to nurse only at night (in dimmed light and air-conditioned room) so she refuses to feed directly even if I am with her during the day. Choosy little girl. I have done my pumping everywhere. In washrooms at my office, nursing rooms in shopping complex, fitting rooms (when nursing rooms at not available and washrooms are dirty), washrooms in airport, washrooms at Singapore customs and even in the car during traffic jam (using a huge scarf tied around my neck for cover up - I am so used to pumping that I do not even have to see what I am doing)

Hopefully by feeding Tao with breast milk until now will ensure her to grow up healthy and smart :)

I have resigned!

I have resigned from my post as a Program Administrator in my company in Nov last year. The reason I gave to my boss and others is that I have to take care of my 2 daughters. Somehow people find it hard to believe and kept on probing me to tell more. They even thought I have been going to interviews on the sly. Some colleagues thought that my husband must be so capable to be able to provide for all our expenses.

The truth is ............ resigning in order to take care of my daugthers is one of the reason.
Another reason is that I will be helping my husband and his business partner (his brother) to manage their company's account, HR, income tax, KWSP, Socso, banking etc. In other words, I will still be working but in the comfort of my own house where I can help my parents-in-law to take care of my girls after 5:30pm everyday.

However until now, I am still working part time in my company due to I am kind hearted. Gag!! I agreed to work on mornings to train the new PA until she is familiar with her job. So my actual resignation day will be on 7th May. (Checked on Chinese Almanac that day is an auspicious date. Hehe.) I don't think there are any other people who takes half a year to resign. Reason I agree to help out is that I can still cope with my workload at home and I do not want to lose touch with my 'outside world' so fast. Not because of the salary but it won't hurt. I do feel more relaxed to go to work everything morning knowing that I can be home in early afternoon.

When I was working full time, it was just horrible. When i saw the icon on the bottom right of my monitor showing 5:00pm, I will get panic and think 'How can I complete today's job? What task should I leave out so that I can go home at 7:00pm? Should I e-mail some of my files home so that I can continue to work at night/ on weekends? Will my parents in law feel tired having to take care of my kids for so long? Am I a bad Mum because I do not accompany my kids the minimum recommended 3 hours every day? Etc etc' It was a horrible experience to go through the cycle everyday. Let's just say I am very lucky indeed and I am very grateful to be able to escape from 9 to 5 job. (or should I say 8 to 8 job?)

Overall Updates

I have not been updating this blog for long. Many things have happened so I have decided to update all happenings at once.
1) My younger sister has got married in Dec 2008.
2) I had serious bouts of morning sickness (whole day sickness, to be exact) at 8th weeks into pregnancy and recovered just before Chinese New Year.
3) We went to Melaka for Chinese New Year gathering with my husband's relatives
4) My bro moved into his new house in Kuching before Chinese New Year.
5) Due to recession, I had a 10% pay cut
6) Tian is growing up smart and full of mischief. She has learnt to pronounced longer words like 'iguana', 'butterfly', 'aeroplane', 'elephant'.
7) I went for my fourth month gynae check up and he mentioned that we are going to have another daughter
8) Celebrated my 30th birthday in a modest way at home with a birthday cake and took some family photos. My husband bought a new handphone with bluetooth headphone as my birthday present.
9) Bought a 40" Samsung LCD TV at SenHeng during a weekend sale.
10) Realised that Tian has started to exercise more control like sitting on her potty without us holding her and feeding her medication without holding her down and forcing medicine into her mouth using syringe.

Baby Plan 2: Surprise! Surprise!

I was suprised! Last blog referring to baby plan 2 two weeks ago was the first month of us trying to conceive and now I am already 5 days late. I did not expect to get pregnant during first month of trying again but we are just lucky.
I bought a pregnancy test and the result showed 2 pink lines this morning.
We have decided not to tell anybody yet because these are still early days.
Furthermore, we are going to attend my sister's wedding in KL so I do not wish my parent-in-laws to be concerned.
Plan to have my first gynae visit early next week.
I actually look forward to this pregnancy (hopefully without 6 weeks of horrible morning sickness this time).

Baby Plan 2: Preparations

I do not believe in 'letting nature take its own course', especially in planning a pregnancy.
I think a couple needs to be ready: physically, emotionally and financially.

Since our first daughter was planned, we intend to plan for the second one as well. Having a baby by accident will deprive him/ her the best start for beginning in life. One or both parents might be on certain medication, exposed to chemicals or even sick when the baby is conceived.

Although I understand the state of health of a baby does not depend solely on above mentioned but as parents, I feel we have responsibility to ensure we give the best head start for our own children.

A few simplest actions to follow are to take folic acid prior to pregnancy, cut down on caffeine intake and getting enough rest. Though the last step is hardest for me to follow because I have been working hard for the whole day and I think I deserve the much needed 'me time' before the end of the day.

After doing all the above steps, only then i will let nature take its own course.

Mama!!

Tian called me 'Mama' the first time two days ago on 28th Oct. I was elated!

She learnt to call her grandpa and papa before one year old and continued with grandma. She even could call my mum and dad when they came to visit her last week. Also recognised her second uncle and auntie (LK's elder bro and sis). Except me!! She could even recognise pictures and read aloud.

I wondered why she would not address me until now. Saving the best for the last?
Whatever the reason is, I am happy!